GIVEN: Someone asks for help
THEN I ask myself:
CAN I provide backup? If so, offer it.
DO I have advice how to maximize the backup? If so, offer it.
If I CANNOT provide backup:
- did the person ask me for advice? If NOT, stfu.
- If SO, do I have experiences that directly translate to what they're doing? If not, stfu.
- If so, walk through my thought process with them.
And basically always validate, to the strongest degree that I authentically can, that I believe in this person and that I think they totally have all the positive qualities at their disposal to do whatever it is they're trying to do.